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Hi everyone,

I'm new on this forum, I'm trying to find some answers...
My partner and I have been trying get pregnant for four year.
He has two kids from two previous relationships so I know he’s not the reason I can’t get pregnant. I’m. I’m falling apart more every day. I have all of the symptoms of depression and I just want to get pregnant. I don’t have much feeling for anyone or anything anymore. I feel so all alone. Even the smallest things are difficult and require so much energy.

I just wanted to write to say I understand and truly know how heartbreaking it is to be a woman and not be able to perform your basic and primary purpose for being. To create, nurture and give birth to another human being. I hate myself for not being able to get pregnant and I can’t understand why this is happening…how do I deal with depression? Some advice on how to deal with this? I've read numerous books like this one The Mindful Way Through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness authors Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindel Segal, and Jon Kabat-Zinn explain why our usual attempts to “think” our way out of a bad mood or just “snap out of depression” leads us deeper into the downward spiral. And I decided to seek help, besides the psychiatrist, from this kind of online counselling services https://supportive.com.au, and I really hope they can help me.

Do you have any other suggestion?
I wish you all the best to you all.
Hi, lovely! I'm sorry you're facing this. But I think 4 years of trying with no luck should bring you immediately to a fertility expert. You should find out the reasons via passing different tests. They will take time. It may take two or three visits to your Dr to complete examinations over a one to six month period. Some of the tests will need to be repeated. During this time, it’s important not to become disheartened. I know it myself. There is no time to waste when facing trouble conceiving. This is my story for you to consider.
I'm a 36 yo POF sufferer. Later adding one of my ovaries removal. Though another one is still viable. But my amh turned into too low. We already have a kid. Naturally conceived - nature tricking..And another natural is out of the question so far. 
I feel a lot more positive this time as my partner is so so supportive. We will try ivf but I am also thinking towards the future about egg donors. I have an identical twin sister who has two children and got pregnant the second month of trying. We were considering using her eggs. (Although her eggs would also be 39 years old) or donor eggs. Obviously my sister has the same DNA to me. My sister is considering this but I am not sure her heart is really in it. I think she just doesn't want to let me down. She will not have anymore children as her husband has had a vasectomy. But I believe if they could have afforded it she would have liked more. I felt torn about this.
So finally we made our strong decision to move onto ivf with another woman's eggs..
I do regret we haven't started ttc just after our first baby was born. I've never thought this will happen to us. Never meant to upset you, hun, just keep saying it's high time to act. Sending you much of love and support. Be wise and take care xx
Hello dear! I hope you are in the best of your health. I know, a person who cannot have their own children are under huge pressure from all sides. This would bring them under immense pressure and they will become depressed. Being a mother I can understand what you have been going through. You should try surrogacy. People who have not been able to go it due to any reason should try it. My cousin went for it and is now a mother of a child. She went to a clinic in Europe and was happy with the results. Their rates were affordable. They had the best team. I would want you to visit them so that your problems do get solved.
It truly is difficult to cope up with a situation like this. It has been proven that the medication and the pain incurred during infertility is equivalent to that during cancer. However, 4 years of TTC is very long. I would suggest that you visit a specialist. As at this time is it important to know what may be the problem. Once that has been sorted out you will get a better picture. As you could go for IUI IVF or even surrogacy. All these methods have proven to be extremely successful. As they are helping women who are facing infertility. The clinic I am going for my assisted conception. It is through them that I have learned a lot about the processes. However, it is really important to visit a good doctor as well. A bad clinic would just be there to waste your money. I am saying this from experience. As now that I am visiting a good clinic I am so much more relaxed and things are actually working out.
Hey there. How are you doing? I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry to hear about your infertility issue. I know it can get very hard. I know it a very depressing state to be in. I know because I have been through it. I was devastated by it too. Have you consulted your doctor about it? Have you thought of other options?. I really wish it works out for you. Just be strong and be positive. Something will work out. I wish you good luck. Take care.
Hello there! happy to see that this platform is helping you in some way. I can understand the problems faced by an infertile couple. They have to go through a lot. They should go for surrogacy. These couples have made their lives hell because of it. These people do not deserve to live a life like this. Surrogacy is the best option for them. Surrogacy is an advanced method to have your own child. My friend went for it. You should try it too. There are clinics in Europe and specifically in Ukraine that provides the best facility. They have been great and have solved all the issues that were taken to them related to infertility. I hope people who want to try it have it successfully done. I wish all the joys of your life are fulfilled.
Hey there. I hope you are fine now. Don't blame yourself for all this. You are not responsible for this. It is all natural. No one can ever control it.
I am gonna ask some questions. Pardon me if they bother you. And don't answer them if they make you uncomfortable.
Have you visited some doctor? Have you run some tests on you? Do you know the reason for you not being able to get pregnant?
If not then kindly visit some doctor. Discuss your issue with him. Try to know the reason. And once you will know the reason, it will be very helpful. It will help you fight the reason. You don't have to lose hope. Stop blaming yourself. Stay strong.
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I wish I could help out somehow. I think you should go visit a doctor for a checkup. If there really is something wrong, ask his advice on it. What treatments would work best? That sort of stuff. There are still options for you. Don't worry. IVF is a pretty good treatment to conceive. Try looking into it. If not then surrogacy is a great way to get biological children without having to conceive by yourself. I have done it. I got my daughter from it. It's been great. I'll definitely recommend! Good luck with everything. Please feel better soon!
Hi lady! So sorry to hear about the circumstances you are going through nowadays. I can understand which pain you are going through. Disappointment really causes depression and mental illness. You have taken the right decision. But I think there are many doors open to remove this depression easily. In which surrogacy is the one, I hope this will work for you this time. best of luck!
Hi GeorgiaSelih. You are absolutely right. It is very depressing to be unable to conceive. I tried for 7 years but failed. I had only one BFP. That ended in MC too. As for you, did you see any doctors? Got any medical tests? Your husband can also be the reason. It doesn't matter that he had children before. Men's sperm quality and quantity keep changing regularly. We women are born with a given reserve. But men produce new sperm regularly. So he should get checked too. Have you looked into any alternative methods of birth? I've had surrogacy after 7 years of trying. Now I have a two-year-old baby girl.  
Hey, Georgia, I feel you, hun. TTC turn you into an emotional wreck and constant agony lead to depression. However, you have recognized being depressed because there are people doesn't know being affected by severe depression. I would suggest you seek medical help. Try going to a therapist. Talking and venting out help to reduce depression significantly. Because many couples i know have drifted apart because of depression due to infertility. Moreover, see a fertility doctor. It is essential to know the major cause of your infertility. This way you could be able to find a resolution. I have heard and since then practicing that you ad OH is a team.Work on your relationship. Build it, at times the emotional disconnection hinder fertility. Don't just keep everything to baby making, make it real. Because the baby making thing affects your emotional relationship. I would suggest you go to an infertility support group or individual therapist. REpair your bond with husband before TTC. Best Wishes!!
HI there. How are you doing? I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry to hear about your problem. I know it must be really hard. I suggest you don't lose hope. I wish you good luck. Take care.
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